Conflicting Priorities

One of the hardest things for a shouldaholic to deal with is conflicting priorities.  For example, I want my child to eat dinner, but I want them to eat healthy food, and I want us to have a peaceful dinner time. Anyone who has kids knows that they aren’t always going to be hungry atContinue reading “Conflicting Priorities”

The Shouldaholic’s 5-Step Approach to Dealing with a Trigger (AGAIN)

Part of being a RECOVERING Shouldaholic is understanding our triggers. That means Awareness, Grounding, Analysis, Identifying Needs, and Navigating the next time (or AGAIN). I don’t think that we will be able to get to a point where we will not longer have triggers. I mean, maybe that could be a goal, like enlightenment orContinue reading “The Shouldaholic’s 5-Step Approach to Dealing with a Trigger (AGAIN)”

Introduction

I’ve struggled with shouldaholicism my whole life. Most of my decisions were filtered through a lens of “should/should not’ based on some standard that was inherited from past generations, my culture, our society, and my friends. Most of the time, this was quite unconscious and for the most part, it kept me on the straightContinue reading “Introduction”